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For all the 20 - Somethings

So many people will tell you that "your 20s are some of the best times of your life". While this is partly true in my opinion, it's also one of the most confusing, anxiety-inducing, and weird seasons of your life as well. Your 20s are a time of transition, where you are expected to have everything figured out, yet you are still trying to figure out who you are, what you want to do, & where you want to go in life.

One of the most fascinating things about our 20s is the sheer diversity of experiences from person to person. We have friends who are married, engaged, have kids, single, dating, in school, in the corporate world, traveling the world, unemployed, moving out of state, living alone, living with parents, changing career paths... the list goes on. No two people's experiences look the same, & that's what makes it such a unique time in our lives. However, what can be frustrating is the societal expectation that during this period, we're supposed to have everything figured out. That's just a bunch of BS if you ask me. Life is unpredictable, & sometimes it takes time to find our way.

I constantly find myself stumbling through life, making mistakes along the way. I will have moments where I'm in a funk, crying, feeling an awful pit in my stomach about not having my shit together. Then there's moments where I feel pure bliss because I tell myself I'm still young & just living my life. I have to remember that it's okay to experiment. No one in this world has EVERYTHING figured out. I know people in their 3os that tell me they still feel lost from time to time. I can bet on it that people in the 40s, 50s & so on might even say the same thing. So repeat after me: "IT IS OK IF I DO NOT HAVE EVERYTHING FIGURED OUT." Forget this invisible "timeline" that's been ingrained in us for most of our lives. There is no set timeline for success, to start something new, or figure out your path in life. As long as you're moving FORWARD that is a WIN!

There is no right or wrong way to navigate your 20s (OR life in general). Everyone is on their own individual journey. A lot of times there will be outside forces that influence our decision making & thought processes. This can be your parents, siblings, friends, significant other, coworker, mentor, that random person on instagram, etc. One of the biggest challenges in this time period is the temptation to compare & listen others opinions. What matters most is what YOU want. At the end of the day you're the one living this life of yours. Listen to your gut instincts & have faith in divine timing. You've definitely heard the saying "what's meant for you will not pass you" , you just have to believe it. We've all had an experience at least once in our lives where we go through something difficult, only for something great to come along. It sucks but shit takes time. Patience is one of the most hardest virtues to cultivate.

Use whatever season you're in for exploration, self discovery, & growth. You are never too early or too late, because this is your journey. What's important is that you aren't hard on yourself. Life isn't always easy but it is worth it, you just have to be willing to put in the effort & embrace any changes that come your way. Focus on the things that you can control, & let go of the things that you can't.

Cultivate your own reality!

With love,


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